Women: what do you expect from men?

Question

Do you expect them to provide a shelter you?
Do you expect them to buy food/household necessities for you?
Do you expect them to buy you dresses and jewellry?
Do you expect them to take you out to fancy dinners?
Do you expect them to offer up their seats in public (transport or otherwise)?
Do you expect them to open doors, pull out chairs?
Do you expect them to offer free service (handyman work)?
Do you expect them to die for you?

Please do remind me again what year this is because I don't understand why certain men feel as if all this is expected of them.

Answer 1

No.

No.

No.

No.

No.

No.

No.

No.



It's 2013.



I have no idea why some men think those things are expected of them, as most are clearly privileges only for the elite (uh, gold diggers). From your list, I'd say #4 is the one which some women do expect, but I'd imagine they are in the minority. All the women I know who are in relationships pay their equal share, but I have seen the occasional woman (on GS) state that she expects this.



Some women obviously take advantage of #5 and #6, but mostly because it is seen as rude to reject a polite gesture. I don't know many people who feel entitled to this type of behaviour. (Maybe older women of a different generation, who are used to that type of thing, and would behave reciprocally.)



I have never heard of an example of #7... and #8 is just a rare, tragic circumstance which occasionally occurs when a man loves his family enough to protect them. I don't think any woman wants her husband to die for her. That is the most painful thing imaginable, and personally speaking, I'd rather die for any of my loved ones rather than endure the pain of living without them. Anyone who thinks men should die for women is just a clear headcase.



I would say that the average woman expects none of those things, but maybe the problem is that "certain men" are not interested in the average woman... They are interested in the elite, mentioned above, and are therefore competing against many other men, who may offer these things in an attempt to win the girl.

Answer 2

Do you expect them to provide a shelter you? No. I bought my own house.



Do you expect them to buy food/household necessities for you? No. We share expenses



Do you expect them to buy you dresses and jewellry? No. I have no jewellery except a wedding ring and I prefer trackies and t-shirts for everyday wear. I buy clothes less than once a year and I spend less than $200 when I do.



Do you expect them to take you out to fancy dinners? No. I hate fancy restaurants and avoid them like the plague.



Do you expect them to offer up their seats in public (transport or otherwise)? Only when I am clearly having a hard time standing, like when I was heavily pregnant. Even then I didn't expect it so much as hope for someone to show common courtesy.



Do you expect them to open doors, pull out chairs? No. I have arms.



Do you expect them to offer free service (handyman work)? No. I can do my own handy stuff.



Do you expect them to die for you? Hell no.



I often wonder where men get these ludicrous notions of women. I can only assume it's the movies.

Answer 3

Do you expect them to provide a shelter you? no

Do you expect them to buy food/household necessities for you?no

However if we were a family, I would expect him to be willing to share the above^

Do you expect them to buy you dresses and jewellry? no

Do you expect them to take you out to fancy dinners? no

Do you expect them to offer up their seats in public (transport or otherwise)? no, unless I was pregnant or something

Do you expect them to open doors, pull out chairs? no, unless I'm holding a heavy object or a tray of beverages

Do you expect them to offer free service (handyman work)? That would be nice, but only if he has time, if it's not too much of a hassle

Do you expect them to die for you? no

Answer 4

I expect respect, companionship and loyalty.



I make money and can provide for myself so I don't expect shelter, food, clothing, jewellery, fancy dinners, a seat on the bus, opening doors, handyman work or him to die for me. However, I'm not above offering many of these things to him.



We have been together for many years so we both contribute about equally and that makes it a lot easier financially. We are debt free and part of the reason for that is both of us are contributing.

Answer 5

Love and loyalty.



As he is entitled to expect from me.



I'm a grown up and I expect to do my bit, in our relationship. We have a family and we both work for that family.

My husband can do things that I can't do, or have the knowledge to do. Which is why I do the ironing and most of the cooking.





It's a game of balance, but if you have love underlying your marriage, you want to please and help your partner, not hurt them.





Edit: No one has ever died for me. I've often wondered how often men die for their women. Seems we'd have a real gender imbalance if that was so.

Perhaps that would explain why women outlive men. Their husband died for them.

Answer 6

i dont expect anything you mentioned from a man.as far as opening doors for me,i think its a polite gesture for everyone who does it.i open doors for men and women,and men and women have opened doors for me.i take care of myself i expect a man to take care of himself if either of us should fall on hard times were there for eachother but neither should pull the weight of both in general.i think of a man,my man,as another adult human being in the house i dont expect anything from him to serve me or provide for me and vice versa.we do nice things for eachother sometimes to make it easier but we dont have gender roles in our home and i made that very clear from the beginning.i told him i dont care how much money he makes as long as he can support himself and im not gonna be submissive to him or "serve" him.we share household chores and make our own money each pay half the rent and bills and both take care of our daughter.i dont expect anything out of him except for what i expect of myself.

Answer 7

yes you're right it;s; 2013 but sadly women still expect so much from men like paying for day,asking them out,women still expect men to protect them,and yes women expect men to do all the things you mentioned

Answer 8

All these women are saying not but that is just plan dishonesty.. in the back of their heads its a radical (terrorist level) YES!

Answer 9

All I really want is a respectful, kind and loving man who is independent and I can spend time with and build a future together. I don't really care about material stuff. I prefer to buy my own stuff.

Answer 10

All of these would be no...

Love, care, compromising, trust, honesty, understanding, nice, and make us smile is all women needs.

Answer 11

No to all of those, obviously. I want a partner, not a father. Give me respect, honesty, faithfulness, love, passion and laughter....and we'll be great.

Answer 12

Respect and loyalty...and love to certain extent