shoud i hate her?

Question

shoud i hate her?

Answer 1

You should follow your inner voice. It sounds like your inner voice is telling you to accept the situation and to try to move on the best you can.



Keep listening to that inner voice. I don't believe you should ever hate your mom ... but there could be a time when you may have to distance yourself from her to protect yourself.

Answer 2

You should sympathise with her helplessness and start loving her more

Answer 3

No don't hate your MOM. My mom was constantly in and out of jail. Family is so cruel. They probably don't want the burden of caring for you. But you keep your head up. How about getting your BIBLE and reading it. Then go in private and PRAY to the LORD. PRAYER does change things, also PRAY for your FAMILY cause they need it. GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 4

It's such a shame that you are suffering. Your mom did wrong, now she's paying the price for what she's done, but you are not supposed to suffer in all this, you've lost your Mom which is bad enough, but then you have to listen to the rest of your family, sticking the boot in when she's down. Your Mom needs your love and support at this time in her life, you deserve to be mad at her, be strong and get past that madness, be strong for yourself and your Mom but survive living with your family and their comments about your Mom, until she can be returned to you, I hope it's not to long,

Good luck! Stay safe.

Answer 5

Hate is the opposite of love, if you hate someone deep down you still love them.



Your mom is your mom, and whatever happens she will always be your mom.



You can be mad, if the reasons are right, but if the circumstances are the reasons "bad" things have happened, then i think you should keep an open mind.



Carry your own weather, it doesn't mean that you have to hate her just because everyone in your family does.



Be with your mom, if she's in jail, she needs you now more than ever.



Peace out.

Answer 6

hey no mater what she does she still is your mom and you know I dont think its worth it for you to hate her coz it will change nothing in fact you will only end up hurting yourself and carrying a heavy burden so just forgive her Coz we all do mistakes at some point

Answer 7

Try to focus your anger on what she did and not who she is. As Christians say, "Love the Sinner, Hate the sin!"

Your anger is normal, it's what you do with it that can have pitfalls. If you bottle it up and suffer in silence you will be hurting yourself in the long-run. If you lash out at her or your family you may say something you'll regret later. There's a happy medium in there somewhere.



One other point, your mom did something she shouldn't have and there are consequences for that- one is jail another is scorn of your family.

Answer 8

You shouldn't be mad at all.She is your mom and you just forget what happened and just dissolve the differences.You shouldn't be mad for any reason with your mom.

Good luck to you

Answer 9

We all make mistakes in life, it's hard to overcome our faults if we are constantly criticized for our wrongs. Love your mom and the rest of your family. You get more with honey than you do vinegar.

Answer 10

I guess what you're asking is how you 'should' feel about it. Should you be loyal to your mom or should you be loyal to your family. But you feel how you feel not how you 'should' feel, do you know what I mean. It doesn't have to be a battle between your family and your mom. They have issues with her that has nothing to do with you, and you have issues that have nothing to do with them. You decide for yourself how you feel and let them deal with their own feelings and don't let them put their feelings on you.



You love your mom and that's that. We can be disappointed in those who we love, and often are, but that doesn't mean that we stop loving them. And ... your family more than likely still love your mom too. I would guess that they are hurt and disappointed and resentful; but again, that is their problem. Just deal with your problems and you'll be fine.



BTW, love never fails ... that means, never.

Answer 11

She is your mom and you love her. You accept the fact that she did something wrong and i spaying her debt. I think you are a bigger person than the rest of your family. They may not like what she did and may be dissapointed with what she did, but that is not any reason to hate her. Maybe you should ask them to respect the fact that you love her and would like it if they were not so negative around you.

Answer 12

she probably isn't super proud of what she did... forgive her and don't follow that path. It is no good. (I bet you feel like "the mom" a lot). You must feel bad for her, but remember, she is not you and you are not her, even though you are related. If you are school aged, maybe you could go live with a different relative. If you are an adult, move out!

Answer 13

You can be mad at her because she misused your trust. But don't hate her. Hate your family. And don't feel like you have to agree with them the majority is often wrong.

Answer 14

Depending on your age, the younger you are the more you need to not let the family influence you. Your mom done something bad and it's your job to love her and let her know that you wouldn't do such things and that you wish she would never do it again, b/c you miss her.

Answer 15

She's your mother, if you love her in spite of what she did, it's fine. You should be able to learn from her mistakes.

Answer 16

u should be mad but she is your mom and if you love her then you stick to that hun

Answer 17

You shouldn't hate anyone. You can be disappointed in her, though.

Answer 18

Not mad, just untrust.