Why do women get mad at men for cheating even though men are not naturally monogamous?

Question

Biologically, men are supposed to procreate with lots of women. Plus, men will likely not get emotionally attached to the women they sleep with.

Answer 1

Has nothing to do with biology.



Women get angry when they are disrespected by a man who claims to be a monogamist, and then sleeps with other women. Just as men get angry when women do it.



If a man is upfront in the first place about not being a faithful guy, then there shouldn't be a problem. It's the lying and deceit that causes problems.

Answer 2

A balanced opinion.. hmm... would it be appropriate here? Looks to me that all you want is acknowledgement by everybody (unfortunately this is never going to happen, even in an exclusively male world) that "men are better," and it upsets you when somebody doesn't agree. That's the nature of the EGO. (Speaking of which, why are you not challenging the fact that most men's IQ are a lot higher than your own? Seems like a comparable point to be honest. Fairly sure, given the generalizations made, that there's enough women with a much higher IQ too). ... not even the point ... I think you should do a double take on all the internet derived assumptions that your mind has pieced together, and realise that, if there was nobody to oppose you, you'd never have given a shiit in the first place. Oh well, rape and pornography exists :) deal with your low self esteem and come again.

Answer 3

Ok. Suppose men are naturally non-monogamous. Does this mean they have no control over the biological drive to procreate with other women? Or if you do have that urge, why not do it with a clean conscience and be honest from the start that you will sleep with other women? You can then leave it in the woman's hands to decide whether she'd consent to a partner who has other sex partners outside the relationship.



I can understand the desire to sleep with multiple people. But I cannot respect someone who would do so without the full knowledge and consent of all partners. Full knowledge and consent makes the act of sex with other partners to be not cheating. Cheating is lying and I don't know a single woman or person for that matter who would abide with a liar. I mean, if a person would lie to their partner who they were sleeping with, what else could they be lying about?



I won't even bother going into detail about the risk of STIs.

Answer 4

I think i might be stepping into a world of trouble here but i do have to agree only very slightly with the question.



Men and women have strong biological urges when it comes to mating but as everyone has already said we can control these things ... why?



Because men who cheat on thier partners i think are not doing it just for the sex ... most do it because thier relationship is lacking in something and they stray because of the 'grass is greener' mentality and the same goes for women who do the same.



This is not an excuse, it is still a bad thing to do, a dishonest thing to do and so on but by the same token i think some relationships puch partners towards infidelity to get the emotional connection they feel they are lacking.



connectedness, emotion, love ... these actually drive things more than thie *****.



That being said there are some guys who are just jerks and have no reason except they think they can get away with it.

Answer 5

I think this is largely a myth.



Women, by that standard, should only be with men who are very big, strong, provider types with extremely pristine genes.



Look how many women fall in love with men who are infertile? Wouldn't they have never been attracted to that man if biology really ran their worlds?



The temptation is there for all of us, and for some of us a monogamous relationship holds no appeal, and therefore they choose to be polyamorous, no harm in that.



To say that monogamy isn't natural seems kinda...dumbass. Sorry =/



It may well be unnatural to *you*, but the majority of people I know wouldn't have it any other way, there are very few who truly enjoy be poly -- large numbers, but a small percentage =o)

Answer 6

In other words, why do people have emotions? Why aren't we all heartless robots? Gee... duh.



A. Baloney, man. Men ARE naturally monogamous. All humans naturally form a particularly strong EMOTIONAL bond with one person. Getting angry or jealous has nothing to do with one's rationale. It's a defensive mechanism to protect your own and your offspring's welfare. Think about it. If everyone woman accept men roaming around on them, what's to prevent the man from ditching her altogether? If no emotional attachment is involved, what brings him back to her after she gives birth and becomes vulnerable?



B. Yes, biologically we are "programmed" to spread our seed. But you conveniently neglected two other biological points: One, biologically we are also programmed to be devoted to one partner. Two, biologically, women are programmed to do whatever is in their power to KEEP the man from roaming. Can't have your cake and eat it, too, buddy.



C. Men will not likely get emotionally attached to women they sleep with? BS. We sleep with other women because we are attracted to them. News flash: attraction is an emotional state.

Answer 7

This might be true but it is not how people are educated. From cradle to grave people are though to believe and hold the belief that humans are monogamous. So it is perfectly natural given the cultural and social acceptance of this stereotype that most women and men believe it to be true.

Answer 8

For the exact same reason why men get mad at women for being monogamous even though women usually gets emotionally attached to the men they sleep with.



Because it's all bullshit and you know it. It's just another excuse, just like how scientists are trying to tie cheating men to their genes.

Answer 9

Humans are naturally suppose to crap anywhere they want to on the floor and pick bugs off each other and eat them. But, most of us have risen slightly since then. Maybe not in your family, so, read and get out more of whatever kind of neighborhood you live in and learn about how other people live better than that in more healthy, informed and considerate ways, OK? One out of every four girls under 18 years old in the U.S. has an STD. Many STD's can cause sterility. Young women can be made sterile by promiscuous sex. It's a terrible epidemic right now and people all over the world are petrified worried about the falling fertility rate which hovers and dips occasionally below species sustainability. ANY behavior that leads to infertility of females is about to be treated in rather draconian ways. I don't think this is the right time at all for young men to be boasting in any way about how "natural" it is for young men to be fvcking up the world.



Also, boys are significantly less emotionally mature than girls are and apparently many men, young and old, need or want women to be the "grownups", the ones who don't "poop on the floor" like lower lifeforms, so to say, to be their "mommies", being the one's to assume all the responsibility in many important matters including sex. So, just be up-front about that with a girl when you are dating her. Tell her that you don't think you are mature enough to handle matters of courtship / sex / reproduction in a responsible way to her or society or that you could care about her health or body over your sexual needs and that you leave all of that in her hands. At least be honorable enough to let her know that about yourself.

Answer 10

It's because of the lying and deception. If a man doesn't feel that he wants to be monogamous, he should be open and honest about that at the start of a relationship, rather than hurting her later. Besides, many men can and do stay faithful to their wife - no one has to cheat.

Answer 11

This is where Evolutionary Theory loses out to the complexities we face as H. sapiens. I'm a guy that loves hot women but I can promise you that I've never cheated on a woman I've loved (irrespective of Evolutionary Theory). When given the opportunity to cheat on someone I love, it's just not worth causing pain to the one I love. I expect the same in reciprocation.

Answer 12

Why do men get mad at women for cheating even though women are not naturally monogamous?

Answer 13

Balderdash.



If you told a woman before you bedded her that you were planning to bed her sis, her mom, and her dog, and that you would never love her, just see how fast she shows you the door.



Besides, many men choose to be monogamous.

Many men choose with their heads, not their *****



Smart women avoid manchildren who follow their ***** about like some kind of obscene dowsing rod.

Answer 14

Because the majority of men are intelligent and committed to the women they love. A small minority lack self control, and they blame their failings on a biological imperative in order to avoid accepting responsibility for their own actions.

Answer 15

Because it is really stupid to state that men are not in control of their behavior. It makes them mere animals. They are not 'supposed' to procreate with lots of women.

Answer 16

Why do men get mad when women cheat?



Same reason.

Answer 17

Oh dude, give it up already! Look, when a man ejaculates inside a woman, some of his sperm turns round to act as fighter sperm to kill any sperm from another man. So, that means that women are just as "non-monogamous" as men.



Live with it.

Answer 18

See, and this is what I was talking about when I said people make excuses for why men cheat.

Answer 19

Look around you. Look at what we eat: it's not raw animal meat we hunted ourselves, it's processed, fat-filled foods. Look at how our system works: it's not might makes right, it's a democracy. Look at how we get our resources: through money, not through the land. Using "that's just how we are naturally" is complete bullshit in this the most unnatural of societies.

Answer 20

Because we are, well MOST of us, have gained the awareness to act accordingly to what is conceived as good and bad. We are not animals, we are not a creature bordering extinction, so we no longer need to go around doing everything that moves.



If you have decided to go back to the stone age, then ok. The rest of us have decided to move on with society, perhaps one day you will join us?

Answer 21

Would you like if your lover cheated on you?



No one does.



And for your info, there are *researches* saying that both men and women are *naturally supposed* to screw around.

Answer 22

Maybe for the same reason that you wouldn't want the person you love cheating on you and then using the excuse that they're entitled to cheat, whatever reason they choose.

Answer 23

I don't buy that excuse.



However I think if a guy wants to spread his seed he should do so, without committing to a relationship.



Harriet

Answer 24

Both genders get mad at their partners for cheating,beause they betrayed them and broke their trust.

Women cheat to you know.

Answer 25

Because it's dishonest.



I have no problem with men or women having sex with multiple partners, but dishonesty irritates me.

Answer 26

I hope you're joking

Answer 27

Grow up!

Answer 28

Simple, we're not buying that caveman mentality as an excuse so give it up.

Answer 29

they be playa haters.