Is it wrong to still desire to look good when you have a partner?

Question

I've always heard that women only dress attractively when they're trying to get men's attention - such as single women looking for partners or those after sex.

I've even heard women say that only unfaithful women continue to dress attractively, let alone showing any areas of their bodies.

However, I'm still rather young at 19 and I think I have a decent body, which I actually enjoy showing off - since I work hard on it. I like wearing clothing that shows off my figure (very rarely revealing). Is it wrong to still want to look good? O.o

When I think I look good, it gives me a huge confidence boost, therefore I feel good about myself. I'm also sure my partner likes me looking good...

(My partner doesn't have an issue - even likes it - just curious).

Answer 1

So presumably these people believe a burqa is more appropriate? Normal men who dont have self-esteem or insecurity issues like their partner to make an effort with her appearance.

Answer 2

I've been in a relationship for over 20 years and I do want to look good. However, I rarely ever wear very pretty clothing, as I dress mostly for comfort. I have school aged children and work in a school, where it is often the case that I have to kneel down on the floor, to do up shoelaces, or to comfort them etc.



On the rare times we are able to get a babysitter - very rare -, we do make an effort to wear something a bit smarter than our usual stuff.



I think it's normal for couples to still dress to impress each other!

Answer 3

Not really, most people like to look good regardless of their relationship status, it makes them feel nice. And they could be doing it for the benefit of their other half as well. There are men/women who want their S/O to look a certain way, you know. It is okay, and even prefered, that you take care of your appearance. Just have to be aware of and accepting of the attention you might draw... They can look but nothing more should come of it since you have a boyfriend and all.

Answer 4

I'm of the opinion that when you're in a relationship you should still be trying to get your partner's attention by looking good for them, whether you're a woman or a man. It helps maintain the spark.

Answer 5

It is more reason to make an effort, regardless of whether I am single or in a relationship I always like to make the best of myself as it makes me feel good.............. some people just let themselves go & wonder why they are insecure then.... a little effort goes a long way.....

Answer 6

You're in the wrong. "Slightly revealing" is slutty, far from classy.

If your confidence boost comes from having a great body, then that means you don't have much else to offer, or at least don't think you do.

Answer 7

Not in this ape's opinion.<3

Answer 8

Relationship or not I always try to look my best.

Answer 9

That would only be fair if you don't mind your partner starring at other women. You highlight your figure like many women do even though they wouldn't ever cheat on their partners and men stare at them even though they also wouldn't ever cheat. That's fair.

Answer 10

nothing wrong with it