POLL - Why do women think they can Change Men ?

Question

Like they usually say , "I thought i could change you..."

Answer 1

Probably because in the beginning of a relationship, it's charming, new, and exciting. As a woman, after a while, the dude gets used to you, stops getting excited when he sees you, and possibly does things that annoys you. (checks out other women, cusses a lot, or you realize he's into weird crap) Even though you try to explain and talk about the issues that you may have with him so they can be fixed, he only hears the nagging tone, not actually what's being said.

If you hate cigarettes, and you start to date a dude you smokes but says he's "trying to quit", and doesn't, you're like.. well, what's up with that ? And then you're the nagging girlfriend.

If you notice your boyfriend's friends are sleazy and disrespectful, and those are his buddies, you're like.. well, is he actually like that when I'm not around ? Is he lying ? Why would he expose me to this and make me wonder ?

If you date a dude who is super nice and sweet but listens to Lil Wayne, he's probably actually a womanizer when you're not around. Music taste says a lot about someone.

A lot of girls want a "bad boy" who is only for her, but most of the time it doesn't work like that. She wants to be the one thing that made him want to change his bad ways.

The fact that your question is "Why do women think they can Change Men ?", shows that you're probably not the kind of dude who would change for his woman. Lol.

It's really hard to find an honorable man these days. That old soul mate kind of love. It does exist though.

Answer 2

I'm a women, and I can say I've never quite understood this either. I don't believe I've ever done it, my older brother made sure I knew I couldn't change him no matter how hard I tried, so I never attempted to in the future. I have seen my friends do this, however. It's usually because when they go into a relationship they are so charmed and have the feeling of falling in love that they look past those flaws, which is a great thing to do but is very difficult as the relationship proceeds. After that honeymoon phase is over, if those "flaws" were something maybe she couldn't handle, though she thought she could, she may either begin to press the man to change his ways so she can fall in love with him all over again, or it could (often) spiral to it's doom. It's a hard thing to find a person who can look past flaws, and maybe what someone sees as a flaw isn't a flaw at all, so finding someone who will is very special. I believe women don't go into a relationship with the intention of change, it's only once they've realized the reality of this fairy tale that they want something more.

Answer 3

The reason why women go for bad boys is because of excitement, the drama and they are a challenge. They go for lovertype first, and when the woman had their fun, their bilogical ticking - they start to worry and tap into resource of all then nice guys who orbit around her.



Yes, I know, those who live in a delusion can thumb this down. It's fine by me. Those who smart will nod their heads cause they got their mind open as well as their eyes. You can't thumb down science but go ahead, it doesn't change centuries of human behavior pattern.



The orbiters are the nice guys are boring, far too easy, needy, clingy. They are the type who when they see a woman think, "OMG! She's the one. So gorgeous, beautiful, and show affectonate behavior in beginning before attraction. Investing emotionally in the woman when she hasn't earned jack shhit.



These guys are pre-selected as platonic boyfriends, platonic guy friends and are a pool to choose as providers and not because of income. It is because she isn't looking for sexual attraction as much but for stability value. And it be a guy she won't worry some hot woman will take away.



Some do choose because of income but majority of women look for stability value.



If you look at women today, you will see she has many guy friends. You'd think that's because of wanting to be friends but unconsciously, it is for survival - emotional support, to feel good, to get attentin, and acts like some net for future. If guy she is with don't work out - she access this IF she doesn't meet some guy who is more of an Alpha. Although Alpha's males have high standard and won't be orbiting around women but rather busy dating many and living a purposeful life.



At eary age, women have the fantays that if they can fix this guy then they got best of both worlds but what they don't realise, is the badboy KNEW that;s exactly what hooks them in. The moment these women get hooked in, they are screwed for a while.



Then cry that women don't want to change men, they just in a relationship and men shouild do something nive to women, because of blah blah love.



But that's all logic now, because in beginning it wasn't about relationship. It was about the fantasy, the illusion they read in romance novels, magazines, and hollywood movies. It was about what others think, what their friends think when dating a guy, popularity.



The real deal after a while becomes toxic and draining.

Answer 4

I'm not sure why, maybe they just want men to change for the better? Women can be confusing. They probably can't change men. Although when I fell in love with the girl I currently like I have changed quite a lot that others noticed I have changed. So I guess that's something

Answer 5

Many men do not understand why women select a "bad boy." Think we have all heard that admission by a lot of women. Maybe, a large number of these relationships are between young people. Just don't know. Someone wroth that "Women feel that women think that they can change a man. A man hopes that she will never change. They both are inevitably disappointed."

Answer 6

Im 15, so i don't know much about this subject, but I think some women want to change their male partners because a lot of girls plan their ideal man in their heads. It may seem silly, but women want to live a happy life with the ideal man, and some like to plan out their weddings and kids names before they're even engaged!



Also, in the past the male usually controlled the female, so perhaps in some ways the female wants to become dominant so that that doesn't happen. No one wants to be controlled, male or female.

Answer 7

This seems like one of many misconceptions of what women really do and don't do.

Women are nurturing usually and bring into a relationship the ideal of romance and making a home out of most anything.

I know both men I had in my life had no idea about dressing.......I would purchase clothes that brought out more in them.......if that is chancing him than it was.........they sure looked better. Some men or woman don't have that gift of knowing how to dress or being social. Men and women both have parts to share in a relationship and if they work together than THEY BRING OUT THE BEST IN EACH OTHER.

Answer 8

I've been with my wife since1975, well I should say we started dating in 75. And she never tried to change me nor did I ever try to change her. We accepted each for who we are and love that person for that. We got married in 1978 nothing has changed either, 37 years of marriage and we're not trying to change the other. And that's with 6 children as well. My wife said, some women want to change a man to try and control them. Which some men try to change women for the same reason, control.

Answer 9

Women shouldn't think they can change the men or men have to change if they love the women..

No..u can't change someone



my boyfriend was a bit of a nerdy type when I first met him..now he's cool.. I don't wanna try to change him..it's more like developing & improving by helping each other

Answer 10

A lot of women are insecure about the type of man they can attract, so they go for a man that needs a little work in hopes that they can mold them into what they want. It's almost like when you don't feel you have enough money to make payments on a bmw, so you will pay for a used car in full and just make the repairs on it, When a woman is confident that she can attract the perfect man who will be what she is looking for, she has no reason to pick a man that needs work! When I say perfect, I am talking about perfectly matched (a perfect fit). I have a blog, check it out: deewimley.weebly.com.

Answer 11

I don't think you should get in a relationship with someone if you cannot accept them for who they are. But, some women think they can change a man by withholding what they have between their legs. But, there are men that try to change women also.

Answer 12

They fit all the pre-qualifications. Just need a little more, like the guys character and personality too change, that should be easy right? I mean he's Hot, Rich, and great in bed and really popular so other girls will envy me. So that's about 99% of what value there is in a guy just need too change a little. See the problem? Makes it worse when you lie too yourself the reasons you want that person too change. Easy truth, your just genetically predisposed too want it all. Or at least as much as you can get.



You want too understand yourself, when your friend asks about your boyfriend and you have too explain him with just a couple words, which ones do you chose. Then rate me up when you see the big picture.

Answer 13

A women can't change a man a man will change himself if he wants to be with a women

Answer 14

Women who feel they need to change men usually come from a " caregiver's place." Usually in the family dynamics they have played this role or much more often will cater to men who tend to be physically/emotionally abusive. If they are trying to change men in order to not only appease them but help the relationship, they will not find any salvation. Men will often have to want to make changes in their lives before they can take on a fully committed relationship.

Answer 15

Actually we woman dont change men, its just that were in a relationship and men should do something nice to women. Its just that,to make the relationship worked, man should know what women want them to be, and i they really love there woman, they would change for the better and not for the worse.

Answer 16

As I have talked to my (now ex) best friend about this before. We came up with the answer that we try to change them for the better. My, now fiancé, has changed so much for the better. He got a really bad DUI which turned him into a felon (right before we met) and since we started dating, he quit drinking and got back into school and is now in line for an executive position t store levers where he works. But a lot of girls, I had noticed, like to changes things. Anything. And changing a person for the better makes us nothing but feel more accomplished on being one step closer to world peace. That's my opinion, though

Answer 17

Honestly, I think they think this because they have a hard time believing that men can be the way they (some of them) are, and that rationality alone suggests that they would be amenable to changing.



Over 47 years I've seen that bad guys do not change. They are only sorry when they are caught, they only reform when the pressure on them to do so is so severe (e.g. jail time, probation, severe family pressure, pressure from work), that they have no choice.

Answer 18

Why do women think they can Change Men?



Because women see "flaws that need correcting" instead of seeing the real problem: incompatibility.



Flirting with other women is not a character flaw........

Not texting enough is not a character flaw.......

Not taking you out enough is not a character flaw..... and so on.



These things are just personality traits and if she is unhappy with them then she needs to look for someone else. But in her mind, she sees a man that is 80% "perfect" and she thinks she can "change him" into 100%.

Answer 19

Women can`t actually change men, yet it really depends on the type of the man.Some men are easily deceived by some women`s maliciousness while other men are really strict . In sum, women don`t change men ...the real thing is that men are to soft nowadays and really have to step on the grip!

Answer 20

If women want to change men, it says that women want something that men have, but that the men aren't perfect. It also means the women are keen on the men, except for a few minot issues. Good for all, i'd say

Answer 21

We don't want to change them, just teach them how to relate to us. Men and women communicate differently. It really is like learning a foreign language. An extra effort must be made to understand our wants and needs. When this extra effort is not being made, we tend to get impatient and try to help the process along.

Answer 22

Because we get blinded by love and are willing to overlook flaws. Sometimes women date men who seem almost perfect and figure they can change the few things they don't like about him. This is flawed thinking and never works. One or both people involved always end up unhappy.

Answer 23

i don't understand much relating to this subject, but I believe some women wish to change their own male companions because lots of girls strategy their perfect man within their heads. It might appear silly, but women wish to live the happy life using the ideal guy, and some prefer to plan away their wedding ceremonies and children names prior to they're actually engaged!



Additionally, in yesteryear the man usually controlled the feminine, so perhaps in certain ways the feminine wants being dominant to ensure that that does not happen. Nobody wants to become controlled, man or woman

Answer 24

Why do so many men think they can change women? It's the same thing. Wishful thinking.

Answer 25

I have no idea. My girlfriend tries to change my political views but of all the things that make me me, it's my political views and they will NEVER EVER change. Most of the time I keep quiet to avoid confrontation but if she knew how I really felt, there would be a lot more arguments. We are pretty much the most politically opposite 2 people can be.

Answer 26

Why would women bother trying to change men, i've enough going on in my own life

Answer 27

A women can not change a man and a man can not change a women. But I am not sure what you mean by change what would you want to change? If it is drinking or sex addiction it would take a trained therapist.

Answer 28

Men do it to women too eg. Woman says she doesn't want children, guy gets with her anyway and then tries geting her to have children..., I think its more ' People' than women/men... it happens in society en masse also, parents do it to their children...



People DO change each other through learning and experience, but more subtle

Answer 29

Be good if we could change some men, but really we can't, and that's the bottom line. I have no interest in changing men.

Answer 30

Because men are usually physically stronger and throughout evolution females have learned to dominate without using physical strength Domination or attempted domination by women/females is an art form literally millions of years old. Even so of course it does not always work.

Answer 31

It's quite the opposite actually... Men expect the women to go to work, do the cleaning and stay at home taking care of the kids, while men still get to go to the bar with friends or whatever they desire. I wonder who 's really trying to change who...

Answer 32

Woman's sometime change the mind then they thinking more good get men.So,Do the women think change men.

Answer 33

Men's mission in life is to change the world. Women's mission in life is to change men.

Whether they can do that is another question.

Answer 34

competetion and because they try or can change everything else in their lives, their hair color cut and style, their clothes they can't even have their own opinion on anything. They have to go to magazines and current fads and styles, so of course if the man doesn't fit that mold.



I call it lets all head to the ladies bathroom because its the in thing to do, syndrome.



I don't agree of course. They might be able to change things on the outside to fit them but the inside will slowly die and if they don't care about that, then ..... Why does he need them? unless he is the same.

Answer 35

Same reason men want their women to be presentable. You want me to look good? You are going to treat me good. It's all about taking and giving in a relationship... Although I dont know if I can talk about relationships when I am an asexual... hmmm

Answer 36

idk, im a female and the last guy I was with tried to "change me". I think its when someone sees you as close to their ideal- but not quite-they want you, but they would want you more if only...yada yada yada....this guy really wanted me to be either bi or into open relationships. Neither was going to work. I left as soon as he let it slip he thought I was "learning" to accept his bull*hit....I don't think its gender based per se.....I repeatedly asked him if he was sure he didn't need a different kind of female bc I wasn't going to change....he apparently thought he could, and that if I loved him enough I should be willing to change. BS. Everyone changes and develops as they grow- but if you know you want/need something specifically from a relationship and your partner doesn't match up- you're not a match and should break up and go find the person that does fit.



But for men and women, trying to change the person you are with is not fair. If they grow with you naturally-coolbeans, if not, stop trying to change someone simply bc they don't fit your mold. Go find someone who does fit, or be happy with what you have chosen.

Answer 37

Because they want to change man acording to their needs. And also they have weapons like Tears, emotions sex , bbobs, love all these things men want and women can give them and in return they want some change.

Like If U want this U shud do this

Answer 38

A female friend of mine told another female friend to stay away from me because I was her man. The second friend said, "You can have him on a silver platter". The first friend told someone else she was going to turn me "into a gentleman". Didn't work. I haven't seen the first friend in a few decades & don't want to. She married someone far less educated than herself, who at least one person I spoke with thought to be slightly developmentally disabled and had a child with him. I don't know what happened later. Intriguing story but so very sad.

Answer 39

That is a woman's ego talking. If she doesn't like something about a man, she thinks she can remake him into something that she finds more acceptable. It rarely if ever works. Men also have egos and they strongly resist being changed.

Answer 40

Change into what? A 1966 Ford Mustang?

Answer 41

For the same reasons men think they can change them: to have some control and someone that pleases you more.

Answer 42

Because they know they can..."do what I want or another man will..."..most men have to chase, compete, beg and pay for women...and if they don't ..another man usually does..so men to don't play into woman's hands..remain alone...those men that do, usually wind up divorced and broke.

Answer 43

I'm a woman and the reason we think that is because we want them to change.

We want to know that they are emotionally or mentally "damaged" or there's something wrong with them.

And then we want our love for them to change them forever.

Women think they are special for that someone and that their love for them is so special that it has the power to heal even the most emotionally damaged.

That is how I view it. xx

Answer 44

Because they are deep down fantasists, mot women believe the right man is out their somewhere but he might need correcting or molded into something that fits their ideal image of men. Its ludicrous because the reality is so far from the truth.

Answer 45

I don't know, I'm a woman and I don't think that way. But I think that women imagine that they have captured a guy so much that they are able to change them. So its like a fantasy I think, that they hope that you will love them so much that you will change for them. To me, these women need to either like the guy for who he is or move on and find someone else that they can like for they are



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Answer 46

Women want a perfect relationship and when they realize it's not going to be that even when they tried hard to change a man to suit themselves and their needs, they end up saying/thinking, "I thought i could change you..."

LOL the struggle... XD

Answer 47

Because they really like you a lot but something is obviously wrong where they want to help you to become a better person, this can be for their selfish desire or genuinely helping. They think they are special so why won't it work

Answer 48

women want to change men to control their own life. it's not realistic to be able to change a person. the ideal thing to do is to help a person be as close as possible to his or her true self, if you want him to be happy

Answer 49

Immature women think they can change a guy. Real women know better. Immature women believe in the "superwoman fantasy"... that's why.

Answer 50

I think its very common for woman to think so.Most of the time we think its for the best to try to change their men. However along the way they eventually get tired trying to do so because they will realize that they will never change...:)

Answer 51

Let me explain this for all you stupid people out there, when we say change, we don't usually mean change their appearance. Change as in personality wise, and for the BETTER. Plus, it's not only benefiting for that woman if she succeeds to "change" him, but him too.

Let's say a girl falls for a guy who constantly goes to parties, gets drunk, etc. She wants him to stop partying and drinking as much. She'll put some effort in him, telling him how he can have fun while staying sober, try to lure him away from all that irrelevant sh*t, but fails. She only wants to change him into a better man because she finds it challenging to love a guy who'd rather do nonsense fun stuff than spend time with her and actually try to become his best self. So, the girl leaves with that, " i thought i could change you."

The end :)

Answer 52

because of the examples they see in america, most men are pretty much up their wifes a$$holes so when a young wOOman sees this she thinks I'll have me a man like this and I will mold him to my needs and standards. this is only possible in america where most men are fagghots, they are engeneered this way. they are micro castrated at birth (curcumcision) man the jews must be really having fun looking at all of crap they did to amerika

Answer 53

If ur with a women who wants to change u into her ideal of a man ?If u fall in love with this person why would u want to change them?

Answer 54

they already change men, just by being there.

the chemistry is, if you are inert , have no reaction then you are not changed, thus = you didn't love her.

the problem is, you meet the girl that is like catalyst, who think them self as something that is not changed, but wil change men.

but you wish to meet the girl that will react like acid base.

Answer 55

Becuz men are sloppy, men can be lazy, men flirt, men can make you crazy, but women think they are smarter and can change them to do their bidding!

Answer 56

Some women are delusional or some other women 👭 are too used to getting their own way and expect it to continue

Answer 57

I don't know. I like men to be unique, have their own minds, debate me, challenge me..(ok, maybe wear a cleaner shirt) but do not change for me..if I wanted a obedient little house boy, I'd hire one.

Answer 58

this is the most bullshit thing ive ever heard from women eventho im a woman too. i mean if you love that person you will never ever and ever want to change him/her. dont ever try to change someone! they will change if they want to! because if you want to change someone you just love the reflection of yourself that you could find from him.

Answer 59

I dont think they actively think they can change men, it's more like hmm.. maybe he'll change with time and considering they think that that change is good, they want the goodness to be attributed to them. ergo, even I (girl) get him to mend (change) his ways

Answer 60

Over 100 years ago it was said that the wedding order of service was

Aisle

Altar

Hymn

Answer 61

They are trying to change him and to eventually control him. That's not gonna come out well either way.

Answer 62

I never wanted my guy to change. I love him just the way he is.

He is working overseas all the time. I don't like it. But wont try to change it.

Answer 63

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Answer 64

Because they want to be stuck in a dream that can never be real. They are too caught up in love and they don't want to be left alone..

Answer 65

Because they've watched too many love movies and read too much fanfiction (aka me). Its the idea that someone can love you enough to change for you, and for the better.

Answer 66

Wishful thinking.

Answer 67

Because they are uncomfortable with men being 100% men.

Answer 68

They think they can change men. However, if they succeed they usually dump the guy because he is not like he used to be.

Answer 69

It's just something a woman thinks she can do

Answer 70

Silly women.

Answer 71

Because they don't have enough to do. The trick is to keep them busy and make it perfectly clear that if they continue their ridiculous behavior, you'll walk.

Answer 72

No one can be changed unless they are willing to. Date a man for who he is not what you think he might be p

Answer 73

So sorry but this is a human being thing so men have the same issue as well.

Answer 74

It is their mission not to change men as so much to save us from ourselves, which of course is always leads to a sure fire failure.

Answer 75

LOL women are just like men neither one knows what they want, lol

Answer 76

Cause Rihanna and **** be singing songs about women ruling the world so they all try to control us til they learn we arent pushovers

Answer 77

No one should go into a relationship thinking they can change someone - they have to go into it thinking they can accept the person the way they are - this goes for both genders.

Answer 78

Because they usually are able to change a man they are with. Good for you if you are not falling into their trap.

Answer 79

They probably don't really expect them to change, they just love them so much, they're in denial

Answer 80

Because they think they rule the world. They think they are always right and that men are always wrong.

Answer 81

They're hoping for the impossible. Like religious people.

Answer 82

I can't i like man. Im a female

Answer 83

That is crazy no one can change unless they allow the change to happen

Answer 84

Because those kinds of women are never satisfied.

Answer 85

Simple. Because they are women!

Answer 86

It's called "pitty" one of the few emotions self-centred women feel.

Answer 87

I have no idea. I watched my mother be a punching bag for a psychotic animal for years. I have pulled a Bobbit on him years before.....(Loraine Bobbit)

Answer 88

to convince themselves not be paranoid about their men, bc deep down inside they dont trust their man at all

Answer 89

No, I've never thought about that.

Answer 90

Because we women think so high of ourselves and it's ******* stupid.

Answer 91

sex to a woman is a powerfull tool and it some times

works

Answer 92

Safe to say that woman you date thought that.

Answer 93

Don't know

Answer 94

They want to be the alpha dog and mold you into a pup.

Answer 95

Because they are proud of their gender qualities and its amenities . it gives them a blind courage to go with the wind ... we are helpless buddy ;.p

Answer 96

Well they would like to chage us,But there is no harm in them dreaming,lol,

Answer 97

For love.

Answer 98

haha I blame the illuminati for putting that in the movies and media as if it were true.

Answer 99

wishful thinking.

Answer 100

who knows man

Answer 101

because once they say "I do"...it means I "own your ***"...therefore, I'll do what I can to make u a mirror of myself!

Answer 102

human nature.

Answer 103

Cuz they got cocky and think they can play God

Answer 104

Because they thought that her pue love can change a man.............

Answer 105

Women are stupid

Answer 106

They were delusional when they got married ?LOL

Answer 107

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Answer 108

magic vaginas

Answer 109

dd

Answer 110

cause he HOT but he personality NOT

Answer 111

they like the idea of control

Answer 112

They are deluded

Answer 113

They are naive

Answer 114

im glad i dont have the same thought

Answer 115

They cab think all they want... All they do is think...

Answer 116

They cant

Answer 117

they don't

Answer 118

i dont know but its annoying

Answer 119

girls aint nothing but tricks

Answer 120

Its because they can.

Answer 121

they are controlling

Answer 122

because they can

Answer 123

they cray

Answer 124

cos you can ;)

Answer 125

no

Answer 126

ok