Partner selection choices?

Question

Would you rather have a spouse/partner who is great looking but of a much lesser intellect than you have....or have an average looking spouse/partner who has an intellectual level equal to or higher than your own? Reasons?

Answer 1

Looks are temporary, and not just due to passing of the years. Looks often change quickly once you open your mouth.



Plain people with great personallities become more attractive, because you start to attach their inner beauty to their outward appearance. Beautiful people with hostile or bitter personalities do just the opposite- they become unattractive.



And, it's not just intellectual level. The ability to carry on a meaningful conversation is not limited to understanding anthropology or physics- but to understanding people, love, fun and life.



That does not require a college education, and in many cases the education can be a disadvantage in this respect. An old friend used to say "Don't let your book-learnin get in the way of your education." Many intellectuals do just that.

Answer 2

I have a probably unpopular answer. I'm a guy, and I would much rather have a nice, attractive woman who isn't an intellectual (or emotional) challenge than a less attractive, intelligent woman who is bitter. I see bumper stickers that say: "Well behaved women rarely make history." Well, I expect good behavior from myself, my guy friends, and women I date. Intelligence mixed with dysfunctional upbringing/lack of looks causes a lot of women to become bitter. If that's the case, then I would rather have the more attractive, less intelligent woman.

Answer 3

The second choice. I like to have deep meaningful conversations at times, and i need some one to contribute to the discussion and understand how i feel about things.However even if the first one doesn't have a high iq doesn't necessarily mean he's all mush up top. I got a 19 on the sat but i consider myself pretty smart. Just not in the "worldly matters"

Answer 4

Average looking with equal or greater intellect.



Looks don't last very long at all, brains last much longer. Brains/personality contribute more to the relationship than looks. Brains are sexier than looks and a major turn-on.



Besides, I don't want a partner better looking than me! I had that, and I didn't enjoy it.

Answer 5

Vanity is not that important to me....( Beauty is only skin deep). But I would love to have a woman that can carry a good conversation, have an opinion about certain things and voiced them. I want someone that is not afraid to speak up for themselves and who have great ideals on how to make change.

Answer 6

Intelligence isn't attractive to men generally, a guy is not sexually attracted to a girl who wants to best him all the time.



However, personality (or 'likeability' as I normally refer to it) is definately the most important thing for guys aside from looks.



As for women, I've heard intelligence is attractive to them, but I've never seen so in real life, so I can't really comment.

Answer 7

great lookin with lesser intellect than me

Answer 8

I like the nasty looking, but really smart types like baba yaga.