Do u think I should help my sister to raise her child? she didn't listen to my advices and now is paying?

Question

do u think I should help my sister to raise her child? she didn't listen to my advices and now is paying the consequences.....

you see, I raised my sister ever since she was 9 years old, I'm 2 years older than her..... it might be hard to believe, but yes, at the age of 11 I had to start taking care of my sister, in the country where I come from children are allowed to work , so at age 11, I became her dad and mom at the same time, I worked hard in order for the both of us to have a home and a meal everyday, fortunately, education is free in this country , I also taught her about the importance of values such as honesty, respect, charity, I also taught her about the importance of saving her virginity for marriage. I told her that any woman with values and principles saves her virginity for marriage.... well, I'm a guy, and I'm also saving my virginity for marriage... anyways, 3 years ago my sister fell in love with a guy from Greece, and guess what? my dumb sister lost her virginity to this guy, then the guy cheated on her and then the guy left the country, now my sister is pregnant, she's 21, she doesn't have nowhere to live, she wants me to help her, she wants me to be her child's adoptive father, but I really don't know what should I help my sister? what do u think? she didn't listen to me, she disrespected me.
thank you for your time and advices.

Answer 1

Dont make your new niece or nephew suffer just because their mother made a mistake.

Answer 2

Different countries have different customs and expectations. It would seem that it would be admirable for you to help her, and how much help would depend upon you and your sister. Would you offer for her and the baby to live with you, help out with babysitting, help financially, etc.? Will your sister be working and is she a responsible person? It sounds like you have done a lot, so far, and it sounds like you care. You might need to sit down with your sister and have a chat. In regards to whether you will be the adoptive father, will depend upon your own choice and how you and your sister feel about this.

Answer 3

You help your sister not for your sister but for the innocent child thats coming. And you need to step up once again, you have done it before and although its frustrating that she didn't listen to you, the baby is innocent and she needs a father figure.

Answer 4

Do what's best for your little niece or nephew, dude. Kidlets need a father figure in their life. Your sister won't be a good parent to the little one, so s/he needs you to look out for them.