What is happening to me?

Question

I finished a bachelor degree and I am working for ten years for the goverment in forensic sciences...I get married and I have two kids. I will like to finish a doctoral degree but I always plan and never do anything to do it...why I have that actitude so bad...I feel like trapped in a swam professionally, I know what to do but I do nothing...why?

Answer 1

It is called inertia. A body at rest tends to stay at rest and a body in motion tends to stay in motion unless acted upon by an external force. This law applies to people as well as physics. Basically, it is easier to do nothing and go with the flow than to make a change. Those who are most successful in life are able to overcome inertia. Others are not. It takes will power and commitment.

Answer 2

Hey Babe, don't beat yourself up! Look how MUCH more you have accomplished than so many people. I am a professional artist who makes a living but I'm in my 50s now and know that I'm probably never going to to be rich and famous and that's okay too. I'm really good at what I can do every day and yes, many days I have to MAKE myself go do what I do well. Perhaps in forensics - pretty HEAVY DUTY stuff - you could get burned out and develop a "what the hell - it all ends up the same way so what's the use" attitude. Who'd blame you for that. If you just want to coast and be a Mom for awhile for your kids - hey, what higher calling. My daughters have spent time with their kids and have gone back to school with a much clearer head than if they tried to keep all of the plates spinning at once like an acrobat in the circus! Good luck, and God bless you.

Answer 3

Sounds like you're torn between career and family.



People tend to freeze like Bambi about to get hit by a pick-up truck when they are torn between such deep emotional choices. One one hand, you desire self-suficiency and sucess. Your other side wants to be loving, nuturing, and more active within your family. Should you selcet getting the "Doct." Degree; well this would pull you further from your family.



Find alone time with yourself. Turn off the computer, TV, music, and make sure family will leave you in peace. It'll be weird to be alone with yourself at first; keep it to 15-30 minutes every other day ... practice this and soon you'll hear what your heart is screaming for you to do. Then follow through with where your heart is taking you.



Continue the peaceful time with yourself forever ... this will help you evaluate where you've been, where you are, and where you want to go!

Answer 4

Maybe it's the money? The work? Having to leave your children with a babysitter while your in college?



Maybe deep down you feel that a doctoral degree isn't worth the hassle?

Answer 5

You have already done alot. Maybe you think there is more to do so as to avoid the things you should be really concentrating on in life like yourself, your kids and your family, take a rest, dont feel guilty. you have done more than me, and im happy with my life.

Answer 6

sweets, you need to prioritize ur goals and go for it! thr will never be an occasion when u wont have obstacles, bt thats life rite? make a mental note of what you REALLY wanna do , how u wanna do it and when you wanna do it..ok.don worry about the outcome, jus believe in urself n keep patience

Answer 7

the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak

Answer 8

get out more, danny said buys some new shoes

Answer 9

don't know.