Are single women in their late 20s never going to find a man and have babies?

Question

Im almost ready to kill myself. I can't face a life without love and children.

I'm a single woman turning 28 this year. I'm freaking out. Everyone my age is getting married and having kids.

Have I missed my time?
Should I give up hope that I may find that special someone to settle down with in time before my biological clock runs out?

Everyone keeps telling me fertility drops rapidly after 27 and then again at 30 and 35... I just feel like its too late for me... I'm destined to never have the one true thing I want most out of life

Answer 1

Perhaps counseling will help you relax on this issue and help you figure out why you haven't met a good match for you yet...

Answer 2

In the United States, the median age for a woman's first marriage has risen to 30. "Median" means that half are above, and half are below. So half of the single women aren't getting married until they're over 30.



Stop "hoping" that you "may find" that special someone. Chance encounters are unreliable and unrealistic. What you need is an organized search. You have to treat finding a husband as a second full time job. Join some singles groups.



And if you don't get married until you've over 35, there is 1) medical technology, and 2) adoption. You can still be a mom.

Answer 3

Don't be so dramatic. I understand how you're feeling ... because I'm 20 now and if I'm not married with kids by the time I'm 25 I'll be greatly disappointed. I wouldn't talk about killing myself or whatever though ... hardly sounds like someone mature enough to be a mother or wife. Of course you "haven't missed your time" ... It's not a contest. Finding someone you should start a family with doesn't come at any specific time. It happens when it happens, if it ever does. This is life. It's not always fair and it usually doesn't give us what we want. Have you tried online dating sites? There are many safe and practical ones like Eharmony. Have you thought about adopting children? It's not ideally what you want, but you would be able to at least be a mother until you find a husband. Adopt a little 5 year old or 10 year old that's had abusive parents or something like that. It'll give you purpose/change your life for the better and you'll be able to experience motherhood at least. You're not 50, you're not 60. Life shouldn't always be planned out and forced. Just live, do what you think is right, enjoy yourself, and let it happen. Never give up. Good luck.

Answer 4

I'm only 16 and i'm a guy so I might not really know what's best but what I do know is that life expectancy in Australia is in the 70 - late 80's range so that's plenty of time to find that special someone and settle down. And I know there are tons of kids out there right now just dreaming about being adopted by someone as loving as you. If you do get married after your time you could still adopt a child and not only make their day but their life :)

Answer 5

You are looking at this the wrong way. I am 30 and I have been single the past 5 and a half years. And I have only been in a couple of relationships my entire life. Being single is actually a good thing. As a woman, do you really want to put up with some man's bullcrap forever? Wouldn't you rather be free to do what you want when you want and pursue your own interests? Truth is, people do not really need someone else to complete them. You are already complete. You just need to love yourself more and realize how strong and awesome you are. While the rest of your friends are miserable in relationships and have to deal with heartache and turmoil, you will be single and happy. Trust me. You will be ok in the long run. Best of luck to you.

Answer 6

Isn't this an outdated mentality.



I am 30. Of most my long time friends of the same age I am the only one with kids or that's been married. I think your a majority not a minority in this day in age.

Answer 7

--killing yourself because you don'thave kids is selfish. actually suicide in general is the most selfish act one can do.

--my cousin is 38 and pregnant

--you need to look backand askyourself "did i even try to find a life spouce and have kids?" or did you just sit and wait at home and expect prince charming to show up?

Answer 8

If it's that important to you then approach men that you find attractive, I reject the notion that men are always supposed to approach women.

Answer 9

Hey, don't worry. There is a woman very close to my heart who had a healthy baby in her early 40s. You still have another decade. :)

Answer 10

Your young if you really want baby and husband get into online dating.

Answer 11

You can always go to clubs and find a man

Answer 12

go seek help both if you are serious and if you aren't and you are playing around