Question about returning food that's not cooked to your satisfaction please...?

Question

I'd like to get an idea if men or ladies tend to return their entree more often at a restaurant if it's not cooked to their liking or is otherwise not great.

If you go out and order some entree at a decent restaurant, but it turns out tasting not so good or perhaps if it's a steak, it's not cooked to your specifications or, say, the entree is edible, but not what you had in mind...

In my case: Male, non modern Feminist. I generally will eat a suboptimal meal lest I be regarded as a jerk and the waiter may spit in my food. I'm highly obsessive about germs and fear this sort of thing.

How likely are you to send it back? Please indicate your gender and whether you affiliate with modern Feminism as this will help me in my informal poll of sorts.

To further elaborate and avoid question marks in responses (I do this because I don't like to "chat" with modern Feminists who incessantly wish to engage in conversations rather than either answering or skipping my question which would be the normal thing to do when dealing with ambiguous questions), suffice it to say that in the above scenario, the meal is adequate it's simply not as good as you'd hoped/expected. I'm not talking about something that's simply inedible or foul, just not to your satisfaction.

Thankl you.

Answer 1

I am a female, and I would not return my food if it was satisfactory. I'm not a feminist.

Answer 2

I'll send something back if it's edible but objectively not what I asked for. Eg. I'm a vegetarian, so I often ask for a meal without meat. If the waiter says that's possible, then brings me the meal with meat that cannot be easily removed in one simple step, yes, I'm going to send it back.



If the problem with the meal is subjective - maybe I think the cook put a little too much salt in my meal, or I think the vegetables are a tad overcooked - I'll let it go, and maybe not order that again.



I have no idea how you define modern feminism, but I do consider myself a feminist. Female.

Answer 3

I would never send my food back in this scenario (it is not exactly what i expected, or is not exactly as good as i expected). if i did, i would expect to pay for it, and probably would not even mention this to my server.



it's not the server or restaurants fault if i am unable to ask pertinent questions related to my tastes.I know what I like, and the server does not have any clue of my preferences, it's silly to think they could envision every scenario in which you may have misconceived what your food will be like.



I find that people that send back their food the most often tip the least, even if it was not error, just a matter of personal taste, ("i don't like long strips of chicken like this, i like it when it's cut the other way") if it was a preventable error or not, (you think it's maybe cooked med-well instead of med but the waitress isn't cooking) or if the server tried to placate them with free things or not. (you didn't like it so it was free).



it is only these situations where you may have to worry about the spit, and even then, probably only if you show your face again and do the same thing- though most waiter/waitresses insist they would NEVER do that.



I sort of think that being that judgemental of a server/restaurant regardless of their actual fault is a negative and selfish personality trait, and it makes me think less of people when i go to a restaurant and dine with them.



yes, you should be able to get what you want in a restaurant, but you need to be specific and observant to ensure this, it won't happen magically without your participation. also, if you have a complicated or obnoxious order, please TIP your server accordingly. it will go far to ensure big portions and the best cuts of meat and things in the future.



I'm not saying you do these things, but a large amount of people do.

Answer 4

I don't know about the male to female ratio of food returners, but I would only send something back to the kitchen that I deem "inedible." If my steak is REALLY cooked wrong, if something is very cold, or over / under cooked. I rarely have done it, but when I do, I'm nice as pie and have never been rude to a server- just politely explain that you would like a replacement food item and will patiently wait. Most servers will graciously return with the correct food without any DNA in it:-)

Answer 5

Sorry, I guess you're good, and that i could particularly prefer to objective your nutrients. yet, if I provide help to be attentive to to tell the pal which you're a chef, i could be telling you a fib, and that would get you into super difficulty. Fibbing approximately an training you have not have been given isn't good. you're a cook dinner until you have that chef certificates on your wall. la Graduate Le sous-chef. So tell the pal that once 4 years, you have paid your dues to be a chef, yet regrettably, you have not have been given the formal training, yet. hi, look at it this form. Rachel Ray makes super greenbacks, and he or she tells people up front, i'm not a chef, i'm in straightforward terms a cook dinner. She became embarrassed to be in kitchen stadium on Iron Chef usa with a gaggle of chefs, yet her dish gained the day. I even have kin that are only housewives, particularly they'd't even call themselves a cook dinner because of fact they in no way worked professionally for money. yet honey, i could experience them against Chef Flay any day of the week. My Aunt's caramel yeast rolls are to die for. And my Aunt Jeanne became trendy for sugar cookies, I even have the recipe. and that i've got some acquaintances that would cook dinner up a typhoon. i will not be able to attend until our annual yuletide potluck, and we've yet another in January for brand spanking new Years.

Answer 6

I only send my food back if there's something seriously wrong with it.



If there's hair in it, or it's ice cold, or not cooked properly, or just plain the wrong thing, I send it back. I don't get picky about medium-well or medium-medium or whatever crap like that, and I don't send it back if I don't care for it because I don't like the taste, I chose to order that entree and maybe I made a bad decision, but as long as it's not made improperly, I don't make a fuss.





I don't send the food back over any little thing though, that's obnoxious, and besides, it's not smart to make the people who make your food angry.





In any case, I'm a woman, fairly liberal, and quite keen on feminism.

Answer 7

I am a male and not a feminist.

I worked in a restaurant for 3 years. I would not return anything under any circumstance. I simply would never return to that restaurant. Unless you're at a really cheap restaurant most waiters/cooks will not spit or do anything wrong to you food. Sometimes it does happen but only to extremely rude arrogant customers who verbally abuse their waiter and even then I only saw it happen twice.

Answer 8

I go by this golden rule.



Server comes out with hot plate:



OK REASONS TO RETURN

Not what you ordered.

Not safe to eat ( completely raw, burnt hockey puck)



other then that, you are stuck with it. eat what comes out. take action by not ordering that item again in the future or not going to the restaurant. People that are all stuck up and need things there way are the type that have it sent back. I am not a waiter but if i was I would spit in someones returned order that was totally too picky.

Answer 9

I wouldn't send it back. I'm a female, and a feminist. (Not quite sure what you mean by modern feminism -- like, third wave? I mean that I think women should have equal rights, get paid the same for doing the same jobs, etc.)



There's a study about this somewhere -- women are less likely to send it back, probably because we're raised to be accommodating and avoid conflict and so on.

Answer 10

I'm the same, I'd just eat it or leave it instead of sending it back, my partner's the same.



We just won't go back there again.



Restaurants are a gamble when you go somewhere you've never heard of. We accept that risk haha =o)



Female, Feminist, my partner's male and has no concern for feminism, but believes much the same I do, so I guess he's a bitchboy to you mayhaps o_O

Answer 11

If it isn't perfect, that's OK. It has to be totally off from what I expected for me to send it back.



Like raw chicken, or if I ordered Halibut and the waiter came out with flounder



Or if the meat was rancid (and if that were the case, I'd gladly take a fresh piece of meat with spit on it)

Answer 12

The only time I will return suboptimal food is when I order a steak rare and it shows up well done. This happens far more often than you think, and I HATE well done steak. I'm not going to pay for a meal I hate eating.

Answer 13

I would eat it but regret going to the restaurant. I would also not recommend the restaurant to any one else. I'm sorry for my ignorance but I am not sure what a modern feminist is.

Answer 14

I return food if there is something seriously wrong with it, like the chicken is bleeding. I don't have them bring me a new one, however. If they didn't get it right the first time, why should I expect better the second time?

Answer 15

I would not send it back. Even if it is not perfect, if it is better then I can do, I generally call that a successful dinner.



Female, and I would call myself a feminist.

Answer 16

umm. your question is too long????

i never return food unless they screwed up and gave me something totally different. and i would never eat a steak