Is it unusual for a man (in this day an age) to be attracted to plus-size women?

Question

First I'm going to give the straight questions and then you can have the back-story if you would like to read on a bit more, okay?

Straight questions:

(1) Would you men/women think its weird for a fit (not skinny/not fat, but generally well bit and muscular) guy to be attracted to "large" ladies, instead of "skinny super-model" type women?

(2) In our society, do men feel any pressure to HAVE to declare (as much as possible) that they only prefer the "skinny super-model" type of women, while hiding the fact that they might have gone out with "large" (fat) women?

(3) Do women feel pressured by friends to hide the fact that they go out with "large" (fat) men?

* Clarification of terms: By "fat" or "large" I mean generally just bigger or plump women, I do not mean "Nutty-Professor" or "Norbit" type of size... more like just curvy/plump/volumptuous/chunky/beefy/beautiful...

Backstory:

When I am out with my male buddies, and the conversation of women/sex comes up with preferences, I find all my guy friends (especially the the military chaps) always seem to keep talking about how many women they have had who look like super models... Or how they ONLY go for hot "skinny-tall-model" type of women... and that they see other guys who go out with "fat" women as "losers" or men who can "do better."

And when we go out to cocktail parties, I find that a lot of my guy friends me excluded) tend to only like or oogle or hit on skinny tall women, while I tend to be singled out as odd because I have absolutely no problem in going to chat up the "larger" ladies.

Although my friends do not directly TELL me I am odd in my choices/desires, I can tell that they somehow think its weird. They act as though I am going out with "Nutty professor/Norbit" type of women.

And my last girl friend directly told me she was surprised that I asked her out instead of her "hot-tall-skinnier Russian" girl friend... and I told her it was because I saw her eyes first. Anyhow, Darth Vader said "Size matters not to the force" LOL. ANyway...

I mean, what is the problem with large women?

I love women period; large/skinny - but certainly not unhealthily fat (i.e. a giant round sumo-suit type of fat lol), but it seems "plus size" is seen as a bad thing? Why?

Do you women face these issues?

Answer 1

Well come on. People in the army aren't exactly reknowned for being open-minded, rational people. In many cases they're basically grown-up "jocks" and many of them still have that stupid high-school mentality where anyone doing anything against the norm is a weirdo freak loser. In fact this is exactly the mentality that an environment like the army would foster - rules, regulations, uniforms, everyone doing the same thing etc.



it IS somewhat uncommon for men to be attracted to plus-size women, but I'd say I'm one of them up to a point, I can certainly appreciate it. It's like all of the good bits of the female body are exaggerated a bit - why people don't see that as a good thing I do not know.

Answer 2

Not really. I think Christopher Hitchens, though athiest and likely a ''witch we ought to ditch'', was sexy as hell; in his manner, and masculinity, and loquaciousness. And, he was not a svelte man by any means.



Some men like bigger women and there is nothing wrong with that. I think perhaps it is the case that a larger, yet sweet and feminine lady, is preferable than a skinny minny who is hard and irascible. Sometimes, it is about a certain manner and she might have a pretty face. At least, I have observed where a woman is larger but feminine and womanly it makes up for any perceived physical flaws in this way. I don't know whether men like tomboys very much.



I am not plus size. I have Lucy Pinder sort of figure. That might be plus size though comparatively.

Answer 3

For my part, i like guys who have a large frame or are just developed bigger commonly. I looove taller guys... I'm about 5'6 and have a giant body myself, and when the man is smaller than i'm, I believe like i am the person in the relationship and that is just no longer good for me... But when I fall for the guy's personality, the appears come second. Looks fade over time anyway. Every girl has distinct taste in guys, though. :)

Answer 4

Everybody knows that men in the army don't like girls.