I'm an @sshole on purpose. Why do women like me more now?

Question

I'm a nice guy deep down, but when I show that side the women don't go for it. When I'm purposely mean to them they like it. What's up, ladies?

For example: I used to open doors for women and they would say, "Aw, that's sweet." These same women would never go out with me. Now in a similar situation, if we were both going into a building, I will go in first and then slam the door behind me before they can get in. When they come in after me, not only will they not get mad, but they think it's funny! This blows my mind!

Another example: Before, when a girl would ask me how she looked I would tell her how beautiful I thought she really was. These girls played me/broke up with me. Now if they ask me the same question, I will say, "You look okay, but you smell TERRIBLE!" Again they laugh and slap my arm. What's up with this logic? I don't understand it, but I'm not gonna mess with it because it seems to be working. I guess women don't like nice guys after all.

Answer 1

In the situations you are describing, it seems like you are joking with these women, instead of being an @$$hole. For example, usually when a woman asks a guy how she looks, she is feeling insecure and is fishing for a compliment. To say "You look okay, but you smell terrible," (especially if you say it in a playful or funny manner) is going to make many women laugh and diffuse the anxiety and tension they are feeling. And they are going to like you for that.



Again, in what are describing, you sound like you are clowning around. Women find humor attractive. Especially when you just start to go out with somebody or getting to know them. Playfulness is good, as long as it is not mean-spirited.



I would not recommend being a *real* @$$hole. For instance, doing things like putting a woman down in public, or dating several different women at once, or being overbearing or mean (rather than playful). You probably will attract women when you do this, but you are going to attract the kind of woman who has really low self-esteem. These women expect to be treated poorly, because that is what they believe they deserve. This will not be a good relationship for either you or the woman, and will probably lead to heartache on both sides.

Answer 2

I ask ppl the same question every chance i get, the most common answer is " they enjoy a bad boy/ treated like s*it" I never believed this and I still don't... but i have doubts. My g/f is busy with her internship and another job so we never have too much time to do anything lately (by this i mean f$ck). At first I would ask nicely and tell her my feelings about this and she kinda ignored it, until i became an @sshole and blamed her completely for not wanting to take time to even call me, now everything is getting better as the day goes by. I dunno how it works but i do feel bad cuz i'm the kind of person that believes if anyone acts the @ss with me they always get theirs.

p.s. if you have any disagreements, ignore them, it works somehow

Answer 3

It seems we like the bad boy image. Some of us grow up with poor examples of men (fathers). We cant seem to get past the idea of we can fix him and make him good. If your totaly a great guy then we have no porject. I know I should say that you should be the nice guy and some wonderful gal will come along, but I am just being brutally honest. We like a chalange, sad to say

Answer 4

Nice guys are often boring. Women need some excitment. I also think women have a need to "fix" a guy. Nice guys are already too close to perfect and their is not much to change about them. Also factor in a women's natural instinct to be "motherly" and take care of a guy. Nice guys do a lot for women so there isn't much left for a woman to do for them.

Answer 5

maybe some people here wont believe me: but i think a 'bad' guy like youre describing is a complete jerk and i trully dont understand women. a nice guy is the only type of guy i have a thing for; it is so sad that more and more guys today are becoming (or are from the very beginning) such @ssholes and if you are in fact a nice guy - please odnt become an @sshole :) maybe you will be one nice guy out there...(and youll bring me back the faith in guys...)

Answer 6

I am in love with a nice guy, and I respect him. I respect him because he earned it be respecting me. (Remeber the female anthem RESPECT by Aretha Franklin). My fiance is living proof nice guys can get a good woman. Be the nice guy you naturally are if you want to find the woman you want. If you go around acting like the kind of guy you aren't then women might notice it is not natural for you to be mean and might find it funny. Women also like guys with a sense of humor.

Answer 7

an honest answer from a good girl: girls like excitement. They like it when they don't know what to expect. They also think they can get that from a bad boy. What they don't know is that bad boys hurt them. It never fails. And they also don't know that good guys can be exciting too. Sweep a girl off her feet. Do something totally unexpected, keep her on her toes. But stil be a good boy :)

Answer 8

To me women who like being treated rudely have no self respect or self value. I am in a relationship with someone who is far from rude. Go back to being a sweet guy That girl who respects you for your kindness and for you ginuineness is out there.

Answer 9

Yo my friend john is the same way and he gets mad women its just the way it works i have no answer but i wish i could treat girls like that but i just cant maybe ill give it shot and see what happens

Answer 10

emmmmmm excuse me if my answer seems rude to you but i truly think that those women's that accept and felt "excited" when you treated them like that " the bad way" are just sicko !!!

being a gentel man is what women's really want a man to be ... but on the other hand don't over do it so the femal with you feel like you are being fake and not honest !!

Answer 11

Well I would say you are attracting the wrong ladies...

But we do like the bad boy type. It seems though that you are being a little rude. I like the bad boys but not rudeness.

Answer 12

I think they are just thinking your funny as, your ussual personality is to say the policitcally correct thing

Answer 13

It's a mind factor

Answer 14

Most women THRIVE on PAIN. That's why TV is total CRAP - full of SOAP OPERAS and "STAB 'EM IN THE BACK!" REALITY SHOWS.

Answer 15

because everyone likes a bad boy

Answer 16

i don't like jerks. nice guys are there doing nothing wrong, and girls are rejecting them. what's wrong with them?

Answer 17

well....it depends on what kind of @sshole you are soem girls like different kinds of @ssholes!-luv ya!-Allie

Answer 18

Tell them you think you have herpes, then you won't have to worry bout them at all!!!